HOW TO GIVE A MAN THE PAIN THAT HE WANTS (3 Ways to Inflict Pain that Creates LIFETIME obsession)

Today, we're gonna get a little dark. The key to what we're going to be talking about in terms of creating pain and giving the pain that he wants, it sounds wrong but it's all about creating guilt and insecurity because guilt and insecurity are what makes somebody more viable to bend to your will. When you do this, you sort of become the end-all-be-all to a guy. You're the one who's able to wound him and at the same time, heal his wounds.

You become the oppressor and you become their liberator in a way. If you really think about it, anyone who's in love with you, you have that kind of power over them. The problem and the reason why women have unsuccessfully seduced guys and the reason why some women struggle getting the guys they like is because they're able to bring him in but they're not willing to give him the finishing blow.

The key to all of this is this: the lower the lows, the higher the highs. You think guys don't want that but guys usually want the women who hurt them the most. As wrong as this looks, this is just based on purely observing what works and what doesn't work. If you think this is wrong then too bad for you because this is just reality.

The first method we're going to be using is The Good Boss Effect. A good boss, a good manager or a good master knows how to give praise to an employee right? A good manager makes you feel good but a good manager also instills a little fear in you and a little anxiety inside. A good manager makes you feel guilty when you do something wrong.

Bosses give you harsh criticism and they make you a little inferior from time to time. That criticism makes you feel down so then when you do what's right, they give you praise and all of a sudden they have the control when you feel good and when you feel bad. So how do you use that to a guy you're with? Simple as this: for the first few weeks of seeing him, you gotta create a sense of security. Be consistent with him and show him your good face--that's how you bring him in. After a few weeks of knowing him, switch it up and give him a criticism that's based on his character that's true.

The second method is to create insecurities through your insinuations. The last one (creating guilt) is a little bit direct but this one is more indirect and more insidious. To be honest with you, indirect is much better than direct so all you got to do is learn how to insinuate things and create insecurities through your insinuations.

The third way is the preemptive breakup. This is all about creating a little chaos in a guy's life. This is risky though but people are more forgiving than you could imagine. By you breaking up with him over an argument that's legitimate, shows him that you're somebody not to fuck with. This is the key though: you break up with him, you delete his number, you tell him not to contact you but you find a way to run into him. Again, people a lot of won't do this because it takes a lot of risks and I don't recommend you guys do this but this works.

THE BEST TIME TO PULL AWAY FROM A GUY (It even works on me! 🙄)

The reason why you want to pull away is because guys need to know that they could miss you.

The first time you pull away is when things are great: when you're noticing that he's texting you and he's liking you and doing all that sort of stuff, this is the first one because a lot of you, ladies, only pull away when things are bad. No. You gotta pick the moment of peak experience to pull away.

The second moment to pull away is when he does something that could be seen as offensive or something wrong. You could pick or create a little argument.

The reason why is that sometimes when you pull away without a reason or an argument, they might assume that you're trying to manipulate them.

We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.

DON'T LET HER FEMALE CHARMS FOOL YOU

Don't buy into women's seductive charms. You think women are always gonna be like that (nice, charming etc) so, as a result, you sort of become afraid to hurt her because you sort of see her as a delicate flower. You're afraid to pull away simply because you're afraid that she won't be able to handle the pain. I know it because I'm that way too.

Naturally, I'm a nice guy. I wasn't born an alpha-male or a player. I was born as a charismatic kid, a very intense kid, a very passionate and I love teaching. My strength when I was a kid was empathy. I was a very loving person and I genuinely would love people when I get to know them.

What tends to happen is that, in seduction, it's a completely Machiavellian world--like being in jail. Women will lower guards through them being sweet and what will happen is that you'll begin to treat them nicer (which you should) but you don't want to pull the trigger and you don't want to pull away.

If you're with a girl and you began to fall in love with her, you're not gonna want to inflict pain because you love her too much and you feel bad. Eventually, what tends to happy when you underestimate them is that they'll pull away and they'll end up having the power and you'll think back and realize how dumb you were. Simple as that.

WHAT TO DO WHEN A GUY IS NOT CHASING YOU BACK

When a guy is not chasing you back through the strategies that I teach, that doesn't mean to do more. Look, some people will only have you in their life as long as they could disrespect you. Some people will only be in your life as long as you don't stand up for yourself. What you got to do is LET THEM GO.

When a guy is not chasing you back, what they're trying to say is "You're either my bitch or you're nothing."

Some people will only have you in their life under those circumstances so when a guy is not chasing you back, you just have to do less. Don't do more when he's doing less.

The solution is very simple: with men, less is more. I'm not saying don't show him interest (because some of you, ladies, go too far with this and some of you don't even act like you like the guy)! When a guy is not really putting in the effort and you applied the tactics that I teach you, it doesn't mean that the tactics don't work. It's just that that's how things are.

The more you chase a guy who doesn't want you, you're screwing your psychology for future relationships. By over-pursuing a guy who doesn't want you, you're pretty much screwing yourself up where you're not gonna know what it is to have a good or bad relationship because you're used to chasing people who don't want you.

Stop chasing him because the more you chase a guy who doesn't want you, the more you're gonna get used to that and that's not something you wanna get used to. It's gonna develop a lot of self-hate and a lot of shame. It's not worth it. If he doesn't like you, just accept it. It doesn't mean that the tactics don't work, it doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you. It just means it wasn't it and that's okay.

THE MOST IMPORTANT INDICATOR OF INTEREST IOI FROM A WOMAN

One of the reasons why a lot of you guys get frustrated with women is that a lot of you think that women like you when in reality, they're just using you for attention. When in reality, they're just not over their exes. When in reality, they're not really as interested as they come across.

That tends to create a lot of bitterness and confusion so today, we're gonna talk about the signs that a woman really likes you. When you're able to tell if she likes you and when she doesn't like you, it avoids a lot of manipulation. The reason why a lot of you guys sort of hate women or unconsciously resent them is because they confuse you. It's that confusion that you're not able to see through the curtain, you're not able to see through the emotions.

You're seeing women through a fog of emotions because they raise expectations and then they pull away and makes you sort of feel resentful. It frustrates you. The most important sign that she likes you is compliance and consistency. For example, if she's having sex with you but she's not completely compliant with you, like when you ask her to wear something or bring wine and she says "no" but still comes then take that as non-compliance. Take that as a sign of disinterest.

When a woman really likes you, she's 100% compliant and a lot of that has to do with you, your masculinity, and how you're coming across. Now, if she's putting up objections, just because she's showing interest but the fact that she always had to pull an obstacle and the fact that she makes you do something so that she could do something, that's a sign of some disinterest.

The reason why you want to go a little cold to create compliance is that insecurities create compliance. The level of compliance that a woman has is an indication of how much attraction she has. Remember that insecurities is what creates their compliance. When a woman really likes you, she doesn't object. When a woman doesn't want to lose you, she will comply with you but when a woman begins to lose interest in you, she'll all of a sudden begin to put up objections.

When you see a lack of compliance from a woman, just pull away. Be a little bit more distant.

HOW TO BE THE NICE GIRL WITH AN EDGE

Let's talk about how to be a nice girl with an edge. A lot of you ladies are just one dimensional. A lot of you ladies just have only one gear of running things and that's being nice, being differential and giving into the guys consistently.

Let me teach you a simple strategy that a girl that I'm seeing uses against me that works and that could give you an edge The girl that I'm seeing is super nice and in the beginning, I will do subtly disrespectful things and she wouldn't call me out on it. She wouldn't call me out on my bullshit so it got to the point where mentally, I sort of didn't have that much respect for her until she did what I'm about to tell you.

I'm not gonna lie, this is the best combination: if you're a nice girl then you won't need to change your personality if you do this. Nice girls give guys certainty. You, nice, girls, give guys the certainty that you'll never leave them. You could be as nice as you want, ladies, just take the opportunity that when a guy says something disrespectful, be assertive. Take that opportunity because that's the opportunity to show your value.

Your edginess as a nice girl is you showing guys negative emotions. Take the opportunities of them disrespecting you (because it's gonna happen), by you not saying that you're gonna walk away but by pulling away. I swear to God, it gives you an edge. Simple as that

By asserting yourself, by declaring your boundaries about what you will or will not accept (not by words but by your tension, your unavailability and your actions), you speak a lot louder than saying "You better not do that". The general gist of it is to be the nice girl that you are and take advantage of the moments of disrespect because that's when you show your strength.

NEVER LET A WOMAN DO THIS TO YOU (#1 Manipulation Strategy Women Use on Men & How to Counter It)

Never let a woman make you impatient. That's their main strategy against men, women make you want them more as soon as possible. This is one of those things that's easier said than done but just like every other predator out there, they always have a weakness.

For us men, we're the one who always chases, we're the one that has more resources but women also have the same strategies that work almost as well as ours and that is they give you the hope that something's gonna happen. When they give you that hope, you latch on to it so hard sometimes that when it doesn't happen, it completely ruins your day. So, what's the solution for this? It's very simple. You gotta have a long-term vision. That's the only way for you to be able to withstand their attacks. I know that having a busy life--finding your purpose in life and trying to master your skill--helps you and gives you something to focus on but sometimes, you have a nice piece of a** coming to you.

Sometimes, you sort of put things on the side because this thing looks certain--she sounds certain, she sounds happy--but then what happens? She cancels on you and you feel like shit. As much as you guys try to act like it doesn't hurt you, it fucking hurts but you know what helps? Expanding your view of time and not focusing on the little rejections. Expand your vision and look at it from the macro perspective.

The way you battle a woman's strategy of creating impatience in you is by you keeping your vision on the longterm.

99% OF MEN DON'T DO THIS

This isn't for everybody but if you actually do what I'm about to say, you'll find yourself in the 90 percentile of guys who get women no matter what you or where you are in life. If you just could get this kind of game, you'll get more women.

This is the original method of seduction that I was taught before and we call it "Entourage game". The most powerful way that people become attracted to each other is simply through pre-selection. Pre-selection consistently always bring more women into your life. Pre-selection doesn't always have to mean that you really got women sucking your d***, it's the illusion that you have women in your life. It's the illusion that you're wanted by somebody else. Women are dumb like that--if you look like you get women, they'll at least give you a try. We're not talking about how to keep women, we're talking about how to get more women.

1. Find something that you love. Start a group based on the things that you enjoy.

2. Create events for it once or twice a month

3. Do it consistently.

I'm telling you guys, this is the ultimate way to get women but 95% of you are not gonna do this because 95% of you guys are not this kind of person and that's okay but this is the reality and this is the best way to get women in your life.

THE TRUTH WHY NICE GIRLS ARE BORING - 3 REASONS NICE GIRLS LOSE TO MEAN GIRLS

Women are naturally assertive when they're children and men are naturally emotional when they're children. As you grow up, superficial social standards are placed upon you and they tell you what to be and what not to be. Why? It's because we want social order. Men are told to hide their emotions and women are told to be more differential--be nicer, smile more, be that good girl.

What happens is that your real side or your natural side is suppressed - you put on a mask. The problem is that as you grow older, the mask becomes very heavy and from time to time, the mask begins to slip. It slips once you're tired of being played and once you're tired of being told what to do.

Today, we're gonna be talking about 3 reasons why nice girls are boring and how we can fix that. We don't want angels here. We want to be able to reform you from a nice to a real person, to a woman who's integrated, to a woman who can integrate her shadow side and who knows how to assert herself.

The first reason why nice girls are looked at as boring is that they don't produce dopamine in a guy. Dopamine comes out not because of the pleasure you give and not because of how good you are but it comes because of anticipation -- more of a surprise or unpredictability.

When you're too nice, you're easy to read unless you're being nice as a front and as a way to confuse him. Let's say you're more of an assertive person, you can use niceness which is okay but if you're really a nice person from the inside, what tends to happen is that you're gonna become more predictable. By being nice overtime becomes boring consistently. It's not exciting because we know what we're getting. You gotta realize that dopamine and excitement are about anticipation. It's not about the actual pleasure.

The second reason why nice girls are boring is that nice girls have nothing else to do with their time or at least nice girls appear like they have nothing else to do. Nice girls have this idealized view of romance that you gotta sacrifice everything, you gotta always be there for your guy and that's true. In the beginning, the problem is that it sets a temple where you will become predictable. Nice girls drop everything for the guy.

They appear to have no lives--they'll stop hanging out with their friends for the guy, they'll stop doing the things they love for the guy--and that's a problem because it removes your edginess, it removes your unpredictability and it makes you less attractive. Yeah, don't get me wrong, I want a girl consistently but you know what kind of girl I want more? A girl that's more difficult. The truth is that every guy has a type but the girl that really gets the guy isn't the girl who's really hot but the girl that makes him feel weak from time to time.

Nice girls appear like they have no lives and mean girls are busier so as a result, they're more unattainable. When you're unattainable, you remain in a person's fantasy world but when you're always there, you're not on his mind. When you're not there and I don't know when I'm gonna see you, you're consistently on my mind. See, that unpredictability fires more dopamine.

The third reason why men find nice girls so goddang boring is because nice girls are naturally impatient. They're impatient not because of sex but because you want that relationship so fast. See, nice girls want to please the people around them and nice girls want to fit in--they want to just fit in but not make too much noise. Nice girls are also very emotional, they want to find that lover so they could join the club, take those pictures on Instagram so that everybody could see. Nice girls conform and as a result, they want a relationship fast.

You guys want to have that emotional intimacy very fast, you don't show coldness because you want that relationship very fast, you don't show disappointment because you want that relationship very fast. and so because of that, you're a type of person that forgives quickly. You want to get there so you overlook a lot of red flags--you miss the details, you don't notice his negative qualities. You guys don't want to offend so you're too forgiving.

What you gotta do is to declare war on that part of yourself. You gotta declare war on the part of you that's so differential. You gotta be so differential. Start to be a little bit less forgiving and start having a long memory for the shit that people do to you. Stop forgiving people, stop being so nice. Start to be more aggressive. Start asking for more, start demanding for more.

Slow down, relax the fck up and learn to be with yourself. Nice girls are always trying to make people happy around them. MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY. Start standing up for yourself. Start telling the people who try to f*ck with you to go f*ck themselves. Start learning how to be alone because when you're nice, you're very suppressed and you have a lot of traits in yourself that you haven't confronted.

How to deal with being nice? Well, it's all about learning how to be aggressive and letting out that aggressive part of you. I made a video about why men love women who embraced their dark side so go check that out. It's not that guys don't like you for you, it's just that you're not being yourself--you're being fake. When you're being nice, you're being fake.

WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO MEN WHO EMBRACE THEIR DARK SIDE - 4 WAYS TO INTEGRATE YOUR SHADOW SIDE

Let's talk about why women love men who embrace their shadow side. I'll give you 3 simple tips on how to integrate and embrace your shadow.

This is the difference between the bad boys and the good boys, between the guys that are "edgy" and the guys that are plain. It's through a woman seeing the contours of shadow that you become more multi-dimensional--more interesting, more captivating. By embracing your shadow side, you automatically spark up the attention of a person's shadow. When you tap into another person's shadow, they will automatically be drawn to you. Have you ever wondered why some women are into guys who are evil, abusive, who talk to them like shit, who treat them like shit? For some reason, the good guys they tend to not like that much.

The reason why we see women with guys with the complete opposite of how they look (nice girl + a drug dealer, domineering woman + a pussy). Why do you think that is? Women would date a guy who she wishes she was like. If she's super nice, she'll date a guy who's violent because secretly, she could live out her secret desires to be violent through that guy. If a woman hates herself and has low self-esteem, she'll date a guy who confirms those opinions. She's using him to talk to her own shadows. In other words, women like a guy who taps into that side of her personality--that's why they return to the asshole because they make her feel alive. Your shadow, the repressed parts of your personality, is what they return to. Whatever you see in the outside is the complete opposite on the inside. What you want to do is to bring out the opposite.

Women love contradictions. If you're feminine, embrace your inner aggression. You got to tap into your aggressive side (not in a violent way) by stop trying to please people. That's one thing, but also, I want you to change the way how you see women. Stop seeing women as angels because that's your projections, your own shadow.